So, I am being told that I am too sensitive.
I have been told this all of my life, actually.
Maybe I should see what this is all about…

Personality Traits of Highly Sensitive People

Highly sensitive people are able read the moods of their friends and family quicker than “regular people.” According to Dr Elaine Aron in The Highly Sensitive Person they can even sense the personality of the person who’s arranged the flowers!

Highly sensitive people are better at spotting errors – and better at avoiding them, too.
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Funny! I used to think I was psychic or something cause I knew how people were feeling.

Dr. John M. Oldham has defined the Sensitive personality style. The following six characteristic traits and behaviors are listed in his The New Personality Self-Portrait.

1. Familiarity. Individuals with the Sensitive personality style prefer the known to the unknown. They are comfortable with, even inspired by, habit, repetition, and routine.

2. Concern. Sensitive individuals care deeply about what other people think of them.

3. Circumspection. They behave with deliberate discretion in their dealings with others. They do not make hasty judgments or jump in before they know what is appropriate.

4. Polite reserve. Socially they take care to maintain a courteous, self-restrained demeanor.

5. Role. They function best in scripted settings, vocationally and socially: when they know precisely what is expected of them, how they are supposed to relate to others, and what they are expected to say.

6. Privacy. Sensitive men and women are not quick to share their innermost thoughts and feelings with others, even those they know well.
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And I agree with this.
Hmmmm… maybe I AM too sensitive.
Now what?

Needs of the Sensitive Type

Needs the known rather than the unknown; needs habit, repetition, and routine.

Needs the approval of others in order to feel best about themselves and comfortable in the world.

Needs to structure their lives around comfort and predictability.
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The list was long and I agree with most all of it. I picked out the ones that apply to the current situation.
Can’t really find anything about who makes a good partner for the Highly Sensitive Personality Type. I’ll keep digging.

Looks like I have a lot of reading to do.
www.highlysensitivepeople.com

Sounds like John M. Oldham is a leading authority on Highly Sensitive Personalities.

Holy Shit! I learned a lot about myself today!
Once again, a heaping, steaming pile of shit that I had to wade through is going to have a silver lining.

A friend of mine that skates for the Rat City Roller Girls as Sheeza Brickhouse has been somewhat of a confidant in these past months. I have turned to her for input regarding events and emotions and she is always stellar and brutally honest with her feedback.

Sheeza: hows the roller coaster?
Pitchit: we agreed to be friends with benefits and that seems OK
Sheeza: does she talk about you to her girlfriends. have pics of you up on her facebook/myspace? do you know her family and friends?
Pitchit: nope
Sheeza: well there ya go
Sheeza: she’s just not that into you
Sheeza: bottom line
Sheeza: you were convenient
Sheeza: or are
Sheeza: stop wasting your time
Sheeza: she’ll never budge
Sheeza: you’ll prob have more luck if you break it off completely and ignore her
Sheeza: sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but i’m always gonna be honest with you
Pitchit: don’t be sorry
Pitchit: I would WAY rather hear the truth so I know what to do
Sheeza: and don’t give her any “benefits”
Pitchit: right on
Sheeza: the bottom line is. she is not that into you, you are convenient and nice to her.
Sheeza: i have been in that situation WAY too many times
Sheeza: go find a girl that wants you as much as you want her
Sheeza: you deserve that
Sheeza:
Pitchit: Thank You!

It is good to have someone that can ask the right questions and give solid, usable feedback when you are in a situation that you really don’t understand. Even though I didn’t necessarily take her advice all the time, I certainly kept it in the front of my mind. Sheeza is a rock star when it comes to analysis and I am lucky to have her. <3

I had never heard of ‘the girl crazies’ or just ‘girl crazies’ before I got involved with roller derby. One can make some assumptions of what it refers to.
girl –noun 1. a female child, from birth to full growth.
crazies -n. pl. -One who is or appears insane.
Being that I had not heard the term until I was forty one years old, I am going to guess that most of you haven’t heard of it either. This is the story of my first hand lesson of ‘girl crazies.’

As a male of the species, there are lots of things that we know about interacting with females. Be nice and be funny and you will know right away if she is interested in you. Be consistent and predictable and she will know that she can trust you. Be nice to the requisite brother/dog/child and you are making points.

The part that men don’t have a clue about is what is going on in that woman’s head. Now this isn’t always true. If it was, we wouldn’t last ten minutes. For the most part, she is predictable and consistent and you feel fairly comfortable that you have done the things that will allow her to feel calm and content.

It is the times that you have done all of the right things for her to feel calm and content and SHE ISN’T that completely throw a man for a loop.

For the last nine months I have been ‘hanging out with’ a certain female. The reason that I need to put ‘hanging out with’ in quotes is because she wasn’t willing to commit to a relationship (which is a story for another day) so we enjoyed all of the benefits of a relationship but we were just ‘hanging out.’ She told me early on that I shouldn’t get involved with her because of the ‘girl crazies.’ And that her ‘girl crazies’ were particularly bad. Well, I really had no experience with ‘girl crazies’ that I know of so, how bad could they be, really?

The first few times that I saw the ‘girl crazies’ they were while drinking and they always seemed to be brought out over semantics. A hugely overgrown disagreement over what some terminology really represented, ending in someone storming off angry. I quickly decided that drinking while ‘hanging out’ wasn’t a good idea.

Every time that I got to witness the ‘girl crazies’ after that, they showed up like clock work and I was ALWAYS blind sided by them. Minding myself to be consistent and predictable so as to not anger the ‘girl crazies.’ My predictability and consistency didn’t mean shit. The ‘girl crazies’ showed up fucking huge and they wanted a piece of somebodies ass. Lucky me, it was always my ass.

Because I analyze the living shit out of everything, I have looked at all the different events that took place immediately prior to the ‘girl crazies’ showing up and I can not find a trigger. I find no two consistent occurrences that might have set off the ‘girl crazies.’ And I really don’t even see an event that justifies the ‘girl crazies’ making an appearance. Oh sure, you are screaming at your computer screen, “IT’S HER PERIOD DUMB ASS!!” No. The ‘girl crazies’ didn’t show up once a month. They showed up once every six weeks.

The biggest problem that I have with the ‘girl crazies’ is that they lash out at me when I have done nothing wrong. In fact, I often felt that I had been particularly perfect in the days/hours/moments prior to the ‘girl crazies’ showing up. But they still came, guns a blazing, and I ALWAYS got plowed over and left with my heart ripped to shreds.

I don’t really know of any way to avoid them or if they are avoidable at all. What I do know is that I am not interested in tangling with that particular brand of ‘girl crazies’ again. That shit hurts too much. Sad.

All the gold and the guns in the world
Couldn’t get you off
All the gold and the guns and the girls
Couldn’t get you off
All the boys, all the choices in the world

I remember when we were gambling to win
Everybody else said better luck next time
I don’t wanna bend like the bad girls bend
I just wanna be your friend
Is it ever gonna be enough?

Is it ever gonna be enough?

All the lace and the skin in the shop
Couldn’t get you off
All the toys and the tools in the box
Couldn’t get you off

All the noise, all the voices never stop

I remember when we were gambling to win
Everybody else said better luck next time
I don’t wanna bend like the bad girls bend
I just wanna be your friend
While you’re giving me a hard time
I remember when we were gambling to win
Everybody else said ah-ah-ah-ah-ah

Is it ever gonna be enough?

More and more, more and more…
Is it ever gonna be enough?